Chapter 5 The truth is revealed

My son suddenly sat up and turned around and looked at me in surprise

I sat beside my son's bed and thought about what I said: Mom knows that you understand that you are wrong and feels sad, but you also have to understand that if you are wrong, it is wrong. If you are wrong, it is a good thing to correct your mistakes at home. But once you say the wrong things outside, you will have no restoration.

My mother has carefully found the answer to the question you mentioned. The answer is that our son is in the growth stage and encountered a fork in his path. I don’t know where to go, right?

Does your son want to take the right path?

My son nodded suddenly: Mom, I really don’t understand the white spots on my pants and the smell is that big; I don’t understand whether it’s right or wrong to like the opposite sex; I don’t understand why the physiological structure of men and women is so amazing; I don’t understand whether it’s comfortable or uncomfortable for men and women to have sex; I don’t understand whether these letters should be replied to. I looked at my son who was crying in my arms and said: It’s right that you don’t understand your current age and experience. I don’t understand. I need parents to guide you through this bumpy growth period.

You should know that it is normal to encounter one or another problem in the growth period. It is normal to think about it yourself. But your method is wrong.

If you have any questions, please ask your parents, right? My son nodded

So let's solve the problem one by one? My son nodded

I smiled and continued: There are two developmental periods in your growth period. Do you still remember that you were a problem when you were a child? That was the first development period; this second development period is what you are experiencing now. This is called adolescence.

My son was stunned and said: Then the white spots on my pants... That's right, the white spots on your pants are semen. It is often encountered by boys during puberty, just like morning erections, it is also a sign of sexual maturity in boys during puberty. It means that your body gradually grows and matures and has a certain fertility ability.

It's the same as the period of puberty for girls

Morning erection? Menstruation? My son is obviously unfamiliar with these two nouns

Yes, morning erection is when a boy starts from puberty, his little brother stands up unconsciously every morning.

Menstruation?

It is a unique sign for girls. It is the cycle phenomenon that the endometrium in the body is thickened, collapsed and fallen and accompanied by bleeding in about one month during puberty. It is also a sign of sexual maturity in girls during puberty. It represents the gradual growth and maturity of the girl's body and has a certain fertility ability.

My son is a little confused: So... I like girls so much and want to get close to girls... I smiled and said: This is also what boys and girls will encounter in adolescence. It is the same as when you receive a confession letter. Boys and girls will involuntarily fall in love with the opposite sex around you during adolescence. This is normal.

But this kind of liking is not the love and love of the opposite sex after the physiological and psychological maturity of men and women.

It's just my initial affection for the opposite sex around me

My son was still a little confused but nodded

Mom so... I want to see clearly... I understand what my son wants to say and continue: Is the son trying to see clearly the body and structure of the opposite sex? My son nodded

I continued: It's normal. Boys want to see the girl's body and structure clearly, even if the other person is developing, right? Girls have also had this idea.

But my mother doesn't recommend you find a living opposite sex to see her body and structure clearly

Why? The other party is also a living person and a opposite sex with his own thoughts and ideas. Why do you let others see you? But... Mom is too... I'm so scared: Good mother is also a girl, but have you ever thought I am your mother?! My son was stunned and looked at the tiger face and suddenly became ruthless: Sorry, mom

I looked at my son and thought: It’s normal to have this kind of thought. Mom suggests that you go to the library to find the human physiological structure diagram to read carefully and see if there is any problem. Then come back and ask your mother.

My son nodded and wrote down what I said

I then said: Because your son, you have grown up and you have nocturnal emission, your mother suggests that you take a shower and wash your underwear frequently. This is not only to care for your current body, but also to remember it for your health in the future.

My son nodded and said: Remember

I said: Today, all my mother can give you these answers. Other mothers need to think about it and give you some answers and have a good rest. Tomorrow is the weekend. Don’t forget to go to the library.

My son nodded and saw me get up and go out to go back to the master bedroom.

The fact is that I can answer my son is the answers that others have not yet been considered.

When I went back to my master bedroom, I closed the door and put myself down on the bed to explain to my son this issue of adolescence really made me tired.

Well, I fell asleep in a daze and didn't know until I woke up the next day under the sunshine.

It’s not that I don’t want to tell my son what it feels like to have sex with a man and a woman. The answer I can tell my son directly about whether he is comfortable or not. But what my son can understand now is not yet fully understand puberty and understand the science of sex.

Tell him directly, but it hurts him

How to say it?

To be more blunt, he will think that since he feels comfortable, he wants to try it himself, isn’t this harmful to his children?

So I don't want to continue discussing this issue with my son for the time being

After waking up, I washed casually and went downstairs. When I saw a glass of milk on the dining table and there was a note pressed: Mom, thank you.

Hey, this bear boy

I don’t talk about it face to face and want to leave notes again?

I was so amused that I used milk to fold the notes and put them in my pocket

Start cleaning at home in Zhou

I was busy until the afternoon, I ordered takeout and then washed the dishes from last night.

It's hard to sort out the dirty and messy things in the yard of your house. At least the windows in the house are still clean

My son returned home in the evening and looked at me so tired that I was soft and I didn't want to move on the sofa. After I thought about it, my son went upstairs and put down the notebook and paper in his hand and went downstairs and into the kitchen.

I watched my son enter the kitchen and walked out in a little depressed moment.

I smiled bitterly and said: Mom is busy cleaning the house and forgetting to buy vegetables and cook. My son, let’s order takeout.

My son responded and ordered takeout with my cell phone, put it down and looked at my son and said, "Play some gentle music, takeout is here to call me."

As I said that, I closed my eyes and rested

My son also understands that cleaning at home and outside is also the most tiring time. Usually, when the family is together, three people always have to work hard for a day (at that time, my son was still young, most of them were doing home cleaning at home, my son did not cause trouble, even if he was a big help). Today, my father is not at home and he is not at home, but my mother is not at home. It’s strange that I am not tired at home.

My son, who thought it through, clicked some gentle music with the remote control, turned it down, and then sat on the sofa and watched me dazed.

Of course, I don't know what my son did, but when I woke up, I know that the clothes I had not touched.

My son woke me up and paid the money and used the takeaway together. I looked at my son’s eyes with a different look with inquiring eyes. I understood what my son saw in the library and wanted to know, but I was so tired that I didn’t have the heart to answer my son’s questions. I just wanted to have a good sleep: Mom is very tired today, can you remember what you want to ask? Tomorrow, Mom is energetic and discuss with you.

My son nodded and said: Mom, I'll go to bed first, mom,

After saying that, my son went upstairs and went back to the bedroom

I also carried my tired body upstairs and went to the bathroom in the master bedroom. I was so relaxed. I took off my clothes absent-mindedly and lay in the water to clean my body. I don’t know when I fell asleep.

I woke up in the middle of the night but found myself lying on the bed in the master bedroom so scared that I was shocked. I sat up and the blanket slid across my body. Then I suddenly realized that I was naked.

But I was a little confused, except for the fatigue during the day, and I recovered after resting.

Obviously I was so tired that I fell asleep in the bathroom but someone moved me to the bed

This person is not her husband, Lao Fang, who is doing business outside, hasn't come back yet.

There are only two people at home, and I and my son are the only ones who move me to the bed... Thinking of this, I have a fever on my face

Is my son naked?

After thinking about it, I am very pleased that my son did not touch me while being tired and sleepy as a mother. On the one hand, it may be because he was afraid of me and had evil thoughts. On the other hand, I am really not sure.

Look at the wall clock at 3 o'clock in the middle of the night

Get up and find a set of bras and underwear in the closet. I took a pajama and put it on. I quietly walked out of the master bedroom to the door of my son's bedroom and listened carefully.

There was no sound or light on the door, gently twisting the door handle to open a crack. The room was black. Only my son's snoring sound came from the sound. This was asleep.

I felt relieved and went downstairs to drink some water, sat on the sofa and thought about it.

My son seemed to have grown up a lot overnight

This is what I want to see and what my husband Lao Fang also wants to see, right?

But the son is still a minor who is not mature in his thoughts and mentality

The family education that Lao Fang and I gave to our son was lagging behind a lot. This is a fact

In this regard, my husband Lao Fang and I cannot deny it

So what the two of us need to do next is to guide our son positively to help him face the growth of himself and the opposite sex during adolescence.

This is the difficulties and challenges faced by a qualified parent. It is also the greatest help that a qualified parent can give to his children.

How to guide frontal?

Guidance method, guidance process and guidance results... I thought about it and I were all things that Lao Fang and I ignored

It really failed until my son had problems. He didn't realize that he lost his sheep and repaired the prison.

Well, Lao Fang is not on this issue and can only think about it myself, strategy and implementation.