My wife talked about it, but it stirred up ripples in my heart for a long time: Can dreams really come into reality? Can the plot in adult novels be realized? Is it heaven or hell ahead?
That night, after working on my wife, I did not fall asleep soundly, but tossed and thought for a long time, and finally got a word!
Although this is just one word, there are two basic points for the decision: the first is objective and full self-awareness, and the second is to thoroughly analyze the character, growth experience, and family environment of the mother-in-law. These two points are the foundation of determining the strategy.
The direction and strategy have been determined, but the actions and tactics must be extremely cautious, otherwise it may be ruined and a happy family may be ruined.
On stage, off stage, outside the play
The founding fathers had already pointed out the direction: the Huaihai Battle was by no means a confrontation on the front battlefield, but was launched by millions of people using wheelbarrows.
Similarly, if you want to win this mature mother-in-law, the answer is not only on your mother-in-law.
So, I began a long journey that has been in the past two years but has not been finally successful.
Let’s talk less, and the following are only a list of what efforts have been made:
1-Double your efforts to gain opportunities and positions for promotion, and the person in charge of a group will increase accordingly after the end of 2018
At the same time, I also started a small financial leasing business with my friends to ensure a little income after sleep
On the basis of not affecting serious work, I still have been doing private work. But the money I earn from private work is revealed, and I spend it unreasonably and spend it to my family.
2-Be attentive, be more careful to your wife, be more attentive to your children, be a good dad, spend more time with your company
3-Give up
What I want to do is too difficult to make mistakes, I must be clear-headed and progress step by step
So I gave up unnecessary social gatherings and even gave up a half-time friend (one is a long-term sex partner, the other is a mature woman who has been flirting with for half a year, and can be pushed at any time), and focused on internal work.
4-Barish Body
With more spare time, swimming and iron pumping are added based on the original exercise volume
Without a wild woman, my physical fitness has become better. In addition, my theory and martial arts are all in my body (haha, I didn’t brag, please don’t criticize me), and a box of utensils helper
Gradually, my wife, who became accustomed to being lazy and physically declining after giving birth, began to shirk my requests and sex, began to complain about being tired, and sometimes she still had dark circles.
5-Worry more about daily life to make your family worry-free
For example, for example: mortgage, property fees, car maintenance, daily maintenance at home, living expenses, water, electricity, gas and internet fees, children's milk powder, diapers and other supplies, I have a list of all the supplies, and I will pay or prepare them in advance.
This also includes my mother-in-law's family's concerns about life, which I will deal with, so that she has no worries.
My wife has long been used to all this, but she just thinks that I am more considerate after becoming a father, while my mother-in-law is full of praise.
6-When the child is a little older, the mother-in-law will not use it anymore.
I firmly disagree, and the main point of expression was that I was afraid that my mother-in-law would be tired, so she was moved, but she still insisted
The final compromise is to change to a slightly cheaper aunt who walks through class, and persists until the child turns one year old and gradually weans it.
7-I will give the child’s living expenses directly to my mother-in-law, in advance, and give more, and if not, I will give it directly!
Haha, I took out the cash and put it directly into her bedside table in the bedroom. I kept transferring money on her Alipay and WeChat, telling her that I bought better food and things and took a taxi when I went out. Although I don’t have the ability to give my family financial freedom, the freedom of the vegetable market and basic supermarket freedom are still very simple.
I also taught her step by step how to use WeChat and Alipay, and taught her how to use Didi and shared bicycles. This is something her own daughter doesn't have the patience to do.
Another point is that the nanny's salary is also paid by me after I give her cash to my mother-in-law. My wife and I blushed and turned to the nanny, with only one purpose to let the nanny understand: the person who decides her income and work is her mother-in-law herself.
8-The most important thing is to treat her as a woman, and treat her as a woman who is a few years older than my wife
So I began to recall that I compared many tricks to deal with her daughter when I was in love (you must not copy Western experience, you need Chinese characteristics) to her.
The main thing is to be careful and treat her as a woman, or even a girl, who needs protection and care.
When I go out with her, I always let them walk away from the side of the motor vehicle. Most of the time I will open the door for her, especially when I get in the car, I will open the door and let her get on and then drive.
When you are still buying gifts for your wife, you always bring her one. It is not a gift that reminds her of getting old, such as foot bath, which reminds her that she is old, but a gift of the same type as your wife, but the style may be different.
In the past year, I have bought clothes for these two women, scarves, sunglasses, lipsticks, earrings, bracelets, anklets, bags, shoes for these two women at the same time.
But my wife's heels are higher, and my mother-in-law has more flat or low heels. Occasionally, she bought a pair of high heels directly and she was embarrassed to say that we (I bought them in the name of our couple) and asked me to return the goods. I said that it was too troublesome to be lazy to return the goods. In the end, she still couldn't hide her joy and tried them on them and took them back to the room to collect them.
9-Praise her! As long as you don’t show your bones, you will smear honey on your mouth to praise her every day. Don’t be afraid of being embarrassed. Shame is the king. You won’t have less meat. If you really want less meat, just take it as losing weight. It’s a good thing.
I praise my mother-in-law for her good face and good figure. At first glance, my wife inherited her excellent genes (I like two likes and I can't ignore her direct descendants)
Praise her for being of a layered and cultured, with ideological connotation, and without the vulgarity of a popular woman
I like to praise her for her good cooking skills (which dish is very delicious), and it is really a storm of wind and clouds. The objective basis is that my mother-in-law is indeed good in cooking, or she is a top-notch woman. Now I have appreciated the mother-in-law in the living room and the kitchen. The mother-in-law in the bedroom is also right in front of me, and I believe it is definitely beyond my imagination!
10-When doing all the above things, remember to master the word "Di" word. Chinese philosophy talks about the doctrine of the mean. Many things cannot be explained clearly and cannot be explained in detail. The result of the same thing is completely different, because the word "Di" word
If the above details are too trivial and meticulous, they can show the man's considerate and attentiveness when doing it. You should avoid leaving behind a trace, trivial, gentle, and even sissy image.
Not to mention it, this can be considered as an ambush on all sides and accusing my mother-in-law.
Let’s talk about the attitude and changes of the mother-in-law whom friends are most looking forward to
Gradually, the mother-in-law, who is already simple and happy, has a smile and a brighter mood.
My son is also smart and vigorous. He assists his father every day, making his pretty grandma laugh
I just joked: Mom, don't be happy, there were no wrinkles at first, don't be funny by this little bastard, but that's fine, I'll buy you the eye cream for XX (wife's nickname). It's very useful.
My mother-in-law was happy, but her mouth was hard, and her pretty face was angry: Don’t talk nonsense, I’m so old, it’s abnormal to have wrinkles. Isn’t it considered improvement to be able to joke like this with my mother-in-law very naturally?
Comrades, encourage me to continue charging! Take down the taboo highland that exudes a mature rhyme!
That night, after working on my wife, I did not fall asleep soundly, but tossed and thought for a long time, and finally got a word!
Although this is just one word, there are two basic points for the decision: the first is objective and full self-awareness, and the second is to thoroughly analyze the character, growth experience, and family environment of the mother-in-law. These two points are the foundation of determining the strategy.
The direction and strategy have been determined, but the actions and tactics must be extremely cautious, otherwise it may be ruined and a happy family may be ruined.
On stage, off stage, outside the play
The founding fathers had already pointed out the direction: the Huaihai Battle was by no means a confrontation on the front battlefield, but was launched by millions of people using wheelbarrows.
Similarly, if you want to win this mature mother-in-law, the answer is not only on your mother-in-law.
So, I began a long journey that has been in the past two years but has not been finally successful.
Let’s talk less, and the following are only a list of what efforts have been made:
1-Double your efforts to gain opportunities and positions for promotion, and the person in charge of a group will increase accordingly after the end of 2018
At the same time, I also started a small financial leasing business with my friends to ensure a little income after sleep
On the basis of not affecting serious work, I still have been doing private work. But the money I earn from private work is revealed, and I spend it unreasonably and spend it to my family.
2-Be attentive, be more careful to your wife, be more attentive to your children, be a good dad, spend more time with your company
3-Give up
What I want to do is too difficult to make mistakes, I must be clear-headed and progress step by step
So I gave up unnecessary social gatherings and even gave up a half-time friend (one is a long-term sex partner, the other is a mature woman who has been flirting with for half a year, and can be pushed at any time), and focused on internal work.
4-Barish Body
With more spare time, swimming and iron pumping are added based on the original exercise volume
Without a wild woman, my physical fitness has become better. In addition, my theory and martial arts are all in my body (haha, I didn’t brag, please don’t criticize me), and a box of utensils helper
Gradually, my wife, who became accustomed to being lazy and physically declining after giving birth, began to shirk my requests and sex, began to complain about being tired, and sometimes she still had dark circles.
5-Worry more about daily life to make your family worry-free
For example, for example: mortgage, property fees, car maintenance, daily maintenance at home, living expenses, water, electricity, gas and internet fees, children's milk powder, diapers and other supplies, I have a list of all the supplies, and I will pay or prepare them in advance.
This also includes my mother-in-law's family's concerns about life, which I will deal with, so that she has no worries.
My wife has long been used to all this, but she just thinks that I am more considerate after becoming a father, while my mother-in-law is full of praise.
6-When the child is a little older, the mother-in-law will not use it anymore.
I firmly disagree, and the main point of expression was that I was afraid that my mother-in-law would be tired, so she was moved, but she still insisted
The final compromise is to change to a slightly cheaper aunt who walks through class, and persists until the child turns one year old and gradually weans it.
7-I will give the child’s living expenses directly to my mother-in-law, in advance, and give more, and if not, I will give it directly!
Haha, I took out the cash and put it directly into her bedside table in the bedroom. I kept transferring money on her Alipay and WeChat, telling her that I bought better food and things and took a taxi when I went out. Although I don’t have the ability to give my family financial freedom, the freedom of the vegetable market and basic supermarket freedom are still very simple.
I also taught her step by step how to use WeChat and Alipay, and taught her how to use Didi and shared bicycles. This is something her own daughter doesn't have the patience to do.
Another point is that the nanny's salary is also paid by me after I give her cash to my mother-in-law. My wife and I blushed and turned to the nanny, with only one purpose to let the nanny understand: the person who decides her income and work is her mother-in-law herself.
8-The most important thing is to treat her as a woman, and treat her as a woman who is a few years older than my wife
So I began to recall that I compared many tricks to deal with her daughter when I was in love (you must not copy Western experience, you need Chinese characteristics) to her.
The main thing is to be careful and treat her as a woman, or even a girl, who needs protection and care.
When I go out with her, I always let them walk away from the side of the motor vehicle. Most of the time I will open the door for her, especially when I get in the car, I will open the door and let her get on and then drive.
When you are still buying gifts for your wife, you always bring her one. It is not a gift that reminds her of getting old, such as foot bath, which reminds her that she is old, but a gift of the same type as your wife, but the style may be different.
In the past year, I have bought clothes for these two women, scarves, sunglasses, lipsticks, earrings, bracelets, anklets, bags, shoes for these two women at the same time.
But my wife's heels are higher, and my mother-in-law has more flat or low heels. Occasionally, she bought a pair of high heels directly and she was embarrassed to say that we (I bought them in the name of our couple) and asked me to return the goods. I said that it was too troublesome to be lazy to return the goods. In the end, she still couldn't hide her joy and tried them on them and took them back to the room to collect them.
9-Praise her! As long as you don’t show your bones, you will smear honey on your mouth to praise her every day. Don’t be afraid of being embarrassed. Shame is the king. You won’t have less meat. If you really want less meat, just take it as losing weight. It’s a good thing.
I praise my mother-in-law for her good face and good figure. At first glance, my wife inherited her excellent genes (I like two likes and I can't ignore her direct descendants)
Praise her for being of a layered and cultured, with ideological connotation, and without the vulgarity of a popular woman
I like to praise her for her good cooking skills (which dish is very delicious), and it is really a storm of wind and clouds. The objective basis is that my mother-in-law is indeed good in cooking, or she is a top-notch woman. Now I have appreciated the mother-in-law in the living room and the kitchen. The mother-in-law in the bedroom is also right in front of me, and I believe it is definitely beyond my imagination!
10-When doing all the above things, remember to master the word "Di" word. Chinese philosophy talks about the doctrine of the mean. Many things cannot be explained clearly and cannot be explained in detail. The result of the same thing is completely different, because the word "Di" word
If the above details are too trivial and meticulous, they can show the man's considerate and attentiveness when doing it. You should avoid leaving behind a trace, trivial, gentle, and even sissy image.
Not to mention it, this can be considered as an ambush on all sides and accusing my mother-in-law.
Let’s talk about the attitude and changes of the mother-in-law whom friends are most looking forward to
Gradually, the mother-in-law, who is already simple and happy, has a smile and a brighter mood.
My son is also smart and vigorous. He assists his father every day, making his pretty grandma laugh
I just joked: Mom, don't be happy, there were no wrinkles at first, don't be funny by this little bastard, but that's fine, I'll buy you the eye cream for XX (wife's nickname). It's very useful.
My mother-in-law was happy, but her mouth was hard, and her pretty face was angry: Don’t talk nonsense, I’m so old, it’s abnormal to have wrinkles. Isn’t it considered improvement to be able to joke like this with my mother-in-law very naturally?
Comrades, encourage me to continue charging! Take down the taboo highland that exudes a mature rhyme!
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