Chapter 106 Persuasion (II)

I will then explain my views on the tragedy of Zhao Jianxin and Chen Ying’s marriage: From your story, I can feel that Chen Ying is immaturity, and she is still a mentality of children.She treats you as a relative like her parents and will forgive her mistakes like her own parents, but she is wrong, you are not her parents at all.Small things will forgive her, but you will never forgive her in the face of big things.

I have a 4-year-old sister who is extremely spoiled in front of me. She knows that my brother will spoil her and give in to her, but she will never be in front of her husband like in front of me. She knows the difference here.Flesh and blood relatives are born and cannot be cut off. The relationship between husband and wife is acquired and requires years of consolidation and cultivation.Unfortunately, Chen Ying was spoiled and she didn't understand this.

At this time, the rain outside the window had stopped, but there was still a little sound of rain falling from the leaves, highlighting the tranquility of the night.It was around 2 a.m. now, but we were both completely sleepy.

I continued: Xiao Zhao, I have said so much to you in a long and long way. I am not trying to force you to agree with my point of view. How to think and do things depends on yourself. I just feel sorry for you and Chen Ying. On this point, my cousin sister-in-law and I have the same idea.I also have a true story about my wife's cheating. The protagonist of this story is my classmates Hao Ming and Chen Jing...

Then, I spent about an hour telling Zhao Jianxin the story of Chen Jing cheating on Liu Yufei.Zhao Jianxin didn't interrupt and listened to me patiently telling this story with blinking eyes.

After listening to the story I told, Zhao Jianxin took the initiative to speak without waiting for me to ask him: Brother He, your classmate Hao Ming is really not simple. I admire his tolerance and love for his wife.He is much better at dealing with Chen Jing's cheating than me. You want to educate me with this. This is one of the purposes of telling me this story.

That's right, you're right, but not just that.To be honest, at first I couldn't recognize Hao Ming's forgiveness to Chen Jing and could not understand his approach, but after listening to the story of you and Chen Ying tonight, I got enlightened and truly realized that Hao Ming did nothing wrong.

Hao Ming was grateful to his wife, who was seven years younger than him for her love and trust in him before marriage, and she truly loved her wife. So he did not push her when her wife was about to fall into the quagmire of carnality, but saved her wife and daughter in time to give her and her wife a complete home.Even so, Hao Ming still paid the price for Chen Jing's cheating.They were forced to go abroad, leave their hometowns and relatives and friends who were born and raised here, and become second-class citizens in a foreign country where they had no relatives, and the consequences were also serious.

In fact, in my opinion, Chen Jing is not worth saving than Chen Ying.In order to satisfy his dirty lust, Chen Jing threw himself into the arms of a demon.When Hao Ming was not at home, he had sex with Liu Yufei in his bed, allowing his young daughter to see it.She also used her daughter to attract her husband's attention and protected her adulterer from escaping from the house.After her husband came back, he shamelessly mingled with that guy many times, and even had plans to divorce her husband and marry the slut Liu Yufei.I now doubt whether Chen Jing still loved Hao Ming during that period, and she was almost infidel in both body and mind.

What about Chen Ying?She was raped and coerced by Lai Jun and forced to have an affair with the villain. Of course, many of her actions were wrong, but it is undeniable that she still loves you and cares about you.She was just physically cheating, and she would never fall in love with that villain, I firmly believe in this.

After Chen Jing cheated, she did not make much effort to save her marriage. She only woke up at the last moment and protected Hao Ming, so she deserves to be saved. However, in order to protect your marriage and her face, Chen Ying compromised and committed herself to Lai Jun, but she still did not get what she wanted.In order to save your face, she was unwilling to let you suffer from her cheating. She made a unilateral sacrifice, but she still did not obtain your understanding. It was a pity that her painstaking efforts and kindness were made.She took the initiative to leave the house and divorce without permission, not to continue to live with Lai Jun. In this regard, she has much better reasons than Chen Jing's divorce.

In my opinion, you have more reason to forgive your wife than Hao Ming, but you didn't do it.I think the main purpose of your telling this story is to let you compare Chen Jing and Chen Ying, Hao Ming and yourself, and learn what truths are coming from it. Unfortunately, we met too late, and you also listened to this story too late.However, your story happened in June and July 2007, and the story between Hao Ming and Chen Jing took place in June and July 2008, a whole year apart.

Now your relationship with Chen Ying is irreversible, and anything else I say will not help, and it will only increase your worries.I agree with Xiao Zhou's words. You should forgive Chen Ying and should no longer be upset about the old things.But why can't you forgive Chen Ying, or even get her forgiveness?You have all done harm to each other without mercy.

If a person is always addicted to resentment and regret, how can he adjust his mind and face his new life again? I think you should wish Chen Ying a pretty good home. After all, you have fallen in love and have had a sweet and warm time.This will be beneficial to oneself and others.You may not be able to figure it out now, but when you accumulate a certain amount of life experience, I think you will have the day you will figure it out.

Zhao Jianxin was silent again, and for a long time.

I took out my cell phone and brought out the photo of Hao Ming's family under the Eiffel Tower that I remake for Zhao Jianxin.After reading it, Zhao Jianxin said: Chen Jing is indeed a top beauty. Hao Ming looks very rational and generous, and he is also a handsome guy. They are really a natural couple and very good match.He is right, saving his family and saving his wife, which is respectful and admirable...

We were relatively speechless and were silent for a long time, but I could understand the reasons and mood of Zhao Jianxin's current silence.

I remembered Lai Jun’s USB drive and asked Zhao Jianxin: Xiao Zhao, is there anything dirty in Lai Jun’s USB drive?Have you seen it?

I've seen it.There are those videos and photos of Chen Ying, I have seen them before.There are also photos and videos of the director of the tax bureau, and there is nothing else.After roughly reading it, I directly destroyed the flash disk, leaving no trouble.I also deleted all the videos and photos from my computer at home. After all, those things left me with memories of shame and pain, and are not worth saving.But I left the recording of Chen Ying and my cousin's wife because it contains Chen Ying's memories of our past relationship. I listened to it several times, and it was very sad several times...

Xiao Zhao, I promise you that I will not tell anyone about your story with Chen Ying, so let your past be covered.I sighed.

Finally, I asked him: Xiao Zhao, if Lai Jun were not available, would you think your marriage with Chen Ying last long?Or if you have children, will you forgive Chen Ying and Lai Jun for cheating like this?

Zhao Jianxin sighed and said: I don’t think our marriage will be stumbling.But with a child, I may not forgive Chen Ying and Lai Jun for cheating like this. This is determined by my personality...

What new ideas do you have now about the words Chen Ying said during the divorce, "He is better than you"?I continued to ask.

I have new opinions, but I can't be sure... Zhao Jianxin said with his head down.

I originally wanted to say something, but after thinking about it, I felt that there was no need to continue talking.Finally, I said this to Zhao Jianxin: There are two tragedies in life. One is that you cannot get what you want, and the other is that you get it. This is what Wilde, the representative of the aestheticist party in Britain, once said.Although things are impermanent, many things are often like this.It's getting late today, let's take a break.

It was already past 3 a.m. when we lay down, but Zhao Jianxin and I were tossing and turning in the bed, and it was difficult to fall asleep. I was not so sleepy until the sky was dawn.