Chapter 14: Life

There is no fixed pattern in life, just like the formation of morality for thousands of years, from cannibalism to wearing clothes to covering up ugliness, to three to four virtues, to women's liberation, although it is not change, it is development. Is our development the trend of the times?

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Thinking is unrestrained, so you can think of anything

The ringing tone of the phone and the surprised voice of my father broke the atmosphere at home. Li Li and I immediately felt something was wrong and both got up to hear what happened to my father.

And I walked out, and I heard what was wrong there, it seemed that someone was sick

After answering the phone, my father walked out of the bedroom while calling me.

After seeing me, I was very excited and still not calmed down. Then I said to me, "Uncle Li is sick, please accompany me to see you."

I looked at my father's excitement and even walked a little trembling. I didn't ask much. I wanted to support him, but he said no

Send Li Li and the child home, and then go to see Uncle Li with his father

The uncle Li mentioned by my father is his father's old friend for many years. They lived in the countryside for many years, and later went to towns one after another.

I have known this Uncle Li since I was a child. He is over 180 years old, has a burly figure, dark skin, and a loud voice.

He worked in the countryside with his father, and later went to the city to work

So I often go to his house with my father, or he goes to our house for dinner, mainly because he drinks and chats with his father.

He is my father's best friend

When I came to the hospital and saw Uncle Li lying on the hospital bed, my father and I were very shocked.

The burly figure was now skinny, pale, and not energetic at all.

He had just fallen asleep at this time. Uncle Li's wife and Aunt Wang saw us coming and let us sit down and tears once again.

I told us that some time ago, Uncle Li felt chest tightness and couldn't breathe

I thought it was okay, but the result was getting worse and worse. I didn't want to go to the hospital for examination, so I was afraid of wasting money

But when I arrived at the clinic, the doctor said, "I asked me to go to the hospital for examination immediately."

Unexpectedly, it was late stage of lung cancer

My father kept looking at Uncle Li's face, his eyes were a little red

Aunt Wang said that in recent years, Uncle Li is still working day and night like when he was young, and his life is still so frugal. He does not eat well, does not dress well, and eats raw in his home. His biggest luxury is that he occasionally drinks some wine from my father and others.

In recent years, I have been busy all day long when I have earned more than before and have not lived a comfortable life, but now I am exhausted.

After saying that, Aunt Wang burst into tears

Uncle Li woke up and saw his father coming. He forced himself to smile and said, "Old guy, you're here."

I haven't seen you for a long time

My father replied: It's Ah, it's been less than half a year. Ah, I didn't want to beat you, the boy, was actually sick.

Why didn't you tell me earlier

Uncle Li Alas, this is fate

Unexpectedly, I have suffered for half my life, but I have also recovered from this problem and cheated my wife and children.

Uncle Li said this, Aunt Wang said, stop talking nonsense, take good care of your illness

Then left the ward

My father said, Lao Li, don’t talk nonsense, don’t think nonsense, recuperation is important

Uncle Li Cough cough, you know this disease, I know it too, I'm less than a month away

I can't bear much sin, but I'm still worried, my wife and children

My father said you should take good care of your illness now, don't think about these things

My children are working now, and life will not be bad

Uncle Li said it was Ah, old guy, I knew I was dying, I have thought a lot of things these days

You and I are both miserable people. We have worked hard for so many years to live, and we have been in exchange for the current family. The growth of children is our greatest pride.

Think about it, we are worthy of our relatives, now we are sick, and we look sorry for our relatives, but the one we are the one we are the one we are most sorry for.

Over the years, we have been working for life, supporting our families, saving money, and not living a good life

I'm going to die in one month now, I really regret it

My father said, old man, this is how our generation has come here

Moreover, with the happiness of our children and grandchildren, we will feel at ease

Uncle Li said that I used to think so completely about this, but now I think that even if we don’t work so hard, we may make our wife and children slightly worse than we are now, but we can spend more time with them.

I could have given my wife a bowl of hot water instead of working hard and tiring to make some money

I could have taken my wife and children to walk every night instead of working overtime to earn money

I could have taken my wife to watch a movie without leaving behind the regrets I am now

As he said this, his father and Uncle Li both left tears, and Uncle Li even choked up.

This is the first time I have seen my father and Uncle Li like this. They have always been tall and upright in my eyes. The impression they give me are always strong.

Now two seven-foot-foot men, and two old men, are crying like this

At this time, I thought I wanted to give them space, so I walked out of the ward and asked the two good brothers to have a good chat. After all, this may be a separation from life and death.

It's Ah, life and death are so easy to appear

I thought about Uncle Li's words just now

It's Ah, why should people be so tired when they live

Have a happy family, don’t have too much pressure on your work, why bother to work so hard, and it’s still a waste in the end

My father is exhausted and exhausted. Is he getting the happiness he wants now?

All he wants is happiness for his children and grandchildren, and now he should have it.

But, this is for my happiness, what about his?

What he has done for me, is he worthy of his life?

Lack of a partner who lives, has never traveled, has never had our leisure time now

Although these are not the true meaning of in life happiness, it is the joy of life

From the beginning of being alone, if there is no sex life again, then his life will be really unfortunate

Although I have clearly solved this problem, now thinking about it, my father's life is really unhappy

For a long time, my father asked me to go in and say goodbye to Uncle Li. I don’t know if it’s time to part with me or see you again.

I gave the money arranged by my father to Aunt Wang, and then left with my father

My father's eyes were red, and he was speechless on the road

Although I don't know how to relax my father, please be more open

But he still told his father, Dad, Uncle Li will not be easy in this life, but he will still suffer this crime, but God is unfair

My father said hello

I continue to say that you and Uncle Li have worked hard for the family for so many years. Uncle Li just said makes sense. You worked too hard at that time and lost too much fun in life.

I remember that once your colleagues working together asked you to go out for a day with Uncle Li, but you and Uncle Li found some work and continued to make money

In fact, our home was not that difficult at that time.

And now, although you are almost retired, you can't stay idle

All you need to do now is to enjoy life

My father listened to what I said, but I don’t know if he listened seriously or was still thinking about Uncle Li’s affairs.

I continued to say no longer need to save money like before, wear more good clothes and eat more good food

You can also sign up for a tour group to go out for a relaxing time

After a while, Li Li and I will go out for a break, and I will accompany you out for a walk.

You just need to enjoy life now, don’t just think about it like Uncle Li. It’s too late to think about it at this time

If you want to play in the future, you can tell me and Li Li. We will make your old age happy

Although I was a little incoherent, this incident of Uncle Li also hit me a big blow

After all, this is my father’s best friend. If my father doesn’t tell me about some things, he will also tell Li Shu that losing a close friend will be a big blow to someone like my father who doesn’t say what he says in his heart.

As for me, who has known Uncle Li since childhood, he is like a relative.

My father didn't speak during the whole process

I wanted him to have dinner at my house, but he disagreed and asked me to send him home

I sent it back to my father, and then cooked food for him and wanted to eat it with him. If he didn't eat it, I asked me to leave first

I knew my father wanted to be quiet alone, but although I was worried, there was no other way. I could only explain some things and went home.

After telling Li Li this, Li Li was also very sorry and worried about her father's blow.

I wanted me to call and ask about the situation, but I thought that my father really needed to be quiet, so I didn't bother my father anymore

I actually found that my father's diary was updated on the Internet

The world is impermanent, my old friend is seriously ill and will die soon, why is life so cruel

If God had eyes, why would he have a bigger blow to this person? Looking back on every bit of the past, for life, we have suffered hardships, sweated, but we have never shed tears.

But today, we cried together

He saw life at the last moment

I want me to let go of my hard work and let me enjoy my life well

Let me plan my old age, exercise my body, let me write, let me do whatever I want, let me find a partner, let me remember that life is short, don’t worry about doing it for my son, grandson, and now for myself

How should I?

After leaving the hospital, my son told me a lot, which also allowed me to enjoy life.

But I have been thinking, life is impermanent, how can I enjoy life

Now I have children and grandchildren. I will be happy when I see them happy.

They said let me live for myself, how should I live for myself?

I was always sad, but thinking about these things, although I had no idea, it made me not think about the grief.

But, this is self-deception. Old guy, leave later, see you a few more times

Log in to the couple's QQ and found that their father was also online

So, he told Li Li that he wanted the young couple to persuade his father together.

Perhaps this change is a good opportunity to speed up our persuasion of fathers, although this good opportunity is not what we want.

After my wife put the child to bed and washed up briefly, my wife and I sat on the bed together. My wife sent a greeting with her husband and wife number.

My father hasn't responded for a long time

It's Ah, my father is q, and it is probably online automatically after turning on the computer. At this time, my father is probably still thinking about the past sadly

After more than ten minutes, my father replied to the message

I asked a simple question, but I didn't say anything again

The wife asked her father what was wrong because they had a lot of chatting

My father simply told his wife about what happened today

The wife comforted her father a few words, and then the topic was naturally about exploring life.

As for the discussion of life, although the father is not in the mood to talk about sex and love in this life, this is an opportunity

So, when my wife let her father see it openly and let her father enjoy life as Uncle Li and his son said, he said that these people after the 1980s no longer have their lives like their predecessors, thinking about it for future generations, we will enjoy life, we will spend more leisure, travel, shopping, watching movies, and even eat delicious food.

And our openness to sex is also a pursuit of the joy of life

Of course, these were added after my wife and I discussed together, changed and wrote, and deleted.

But my father said that today my old friend advised him, my son advised him, and even we advised him to be open-minded and enjoy life well

He actually doesn't object to enjoying life, but how do you enjoy it?

His lifestyle has been fixed. Now he has no mood of ups and downs, no temperament of opening and closing, no too many extravagant expectations, and now he is only thinking about happiness for his children and grandchildren

This answer is something we can think of. His lifestyle has remained unchanged for decades, and his beliefs have remained unchanged for decades.

How can he let go of this? What he always thinks about is not relaxation, but a slight change.

We can only guide slowly, we say, you can start with the changes in life, Ah

For example, if you start tomorrow, it is not just a mess when eating.

After saying this, my father then said, how did you know that I often fooled me into eating

This sentence happened to my wife and I, and it was revealed.

After all, we have never talked about these Ah, we are young couple Ah

But, after all, it was not in person. We thought about it and said that we had a lot of talks. You live alone, and then you are the kind of frugal person, so naturally you just fooled into eating something.

My father said he had acquiesced, and then we continued

Start changing from the little things of life, and gradually there will be many ways for you to feel happy.

For example, you also go to watch a movie, you also go to dance square dance, and you also buy yourself a piece of clothes you like but don't buy, etc.

My wife is really good at saying this, and after all, what we advised me is what we want my father to do on a daily basis and not to treat myself badly.

But, what is our purpose

I looked at my wife and said in her ear, "Today, do you want to tell my dad about seduction from my daughter-in-law."

My wife blushed and said, "I'm not suitable."

My father was in a very depressed mood, so how could he think about it?

But I said, today's opportunity is rare, so we might as well make it clear for him and let him enjoy it too

Even if it bothers him, it would be better than if he always misses Uncle Li's affairs.

My wife said, too

So I continued to say that there is another Ah, for example, next time your daughter-in-law has any amazing scenes, you should appreciate them, no matter whether you can accept it or not, it is seducing you

After saying that, my wife was trembling a little because this sentence was to let her father-in-law appreciate her body.

Although the father didn't know, the wife himself knew, and his husband was watching from the side

My father replied for a long time, saying that I actually agree with what you, including my old friends and children said, and what I enjoyed life. What we just said, except for the daughter-in-law and sexual aspects, because after all, we are not as relaxed as we can, and he has thought about everything else.

Moreover, he also felt that just like he wanted his child to live a good life back then, he would be happy if his child was well.

Now the child’s idea is the same as he used to be. If he is happy, the child will be happy.

So, he is willing to change his attitude towards life from tomorrow

As for the daughter-in-law, he still feels it is unrealistic

Regarding sex, he has been suppressed for many years. Although he has been in contact with us and his daughter-in-law's performance during this period, he still cannot fully accept the ethical and reasonable things.

Seeing this, we didn't accept it at all. We slapped our palms happily, and then we were embarrassed to look at each other.

Because, this means that it is impossible to accept completely. As the name suggests, it is possible to accept partially, which means that the father will start to accept his wife's seduction. If this step of accepting seduction is taken, it will be much better than that day.

That is, the wife's body has taken over by her father.

Although I experienced the sadness of Uncle Li like a relative today, I clearly felt that when my father said he could not fully accept it, my lower body felt. Although it was not completely hard, it really shocked my heart.

My wife and I should think about the same thing. The steps my body and thoughts are originally very stimulating, but all this is driven by my husband, and the feeling of chaos is chaotic.

According to my thoughts, I think my wife should think so too. I typed a line of words to send it to my father. Since I can't fully accept it, that is, I can partially accept it, so let it go according to your past and let it go. When it happens again, try to appreciate it, try to relax your heart, and try to awaken your desires for many years. Maybe one day, desire defeats reason, and maybe you will be blessed with sexual desires.

I asked my wife to look at it, then put my wife's hand on the Enter key, and after she confirmed it, I sent it out

My wife hesitated for a while, but still clicked the Enter key

It seems that my wife and I have a very close heart

My father hesitated for a long time before sending a message. In fact, the biggest advantage of chatting with you is that I don’t know much to talk about.

When you said this, I felt very conflicted

If it is really like what you said, those that happen, it is contrary to ethical and secular.

At such an old age, if these happen again, if they spread, they will be ridiculed. How long can I live? I will affect my children's big Ah

After reading these, we understand that my father’s concerns are not only fearing the world, but more importantly, fearing that he affects us.

It seems that the father's desire must be, but he suppressed it. In the face of the most primitive desires, he first considered the life of his children, the great father.

We say that life is not easy in fact and does not affect others, so why bother considering so many other people's ideas?

Just like when we young couples look for others, the risk of spreading is greater, and you are a family, under the same roof, who can know?

Do you remember the advice you gave us?

For you, those do not exist

My father replied that he really didn't have the time to talk about these things today, but he really didn't want to think about his close friends anymore

After talking about these things, although he still cannot fully agree, his attitude towards life will change. As for how much change, let it go, but he will try not to think about those things that are contrary to ethics.

Let's ask my father to think about good things more and stop thinking about separation from life and death

Later, he advised his father to take a break early, and then he went offline.

Then I lay down with my wife, chatted about what happened for a day, and what I just chatted with.

We think that if there is God, this may be God's arrangement, just like letting us carry out this filial piety

Whether this is self-deception or not, we all believe that my father’s later life should be colorful, and we will give the happiness we can give to my father.

Thinking of a word, I logged in to my mobile phone Q and sent it to my father, which was also for us to see it ourselves.

Life is a hundred years, why live hard, enjoy life and get happiness